I never knew how an incident could trigger me so strongly or I never acknowledged it.
This past Saturday I participated in a #metoo rally in #yeg , as a member of Black Women United Yeg. Black women attended to support those who were currently hurting due to long standing issues within our community.
After the rally The March On Collective Edmonton accused us of trying to change the focus of the rally of; when we were trying to represent black women who have been sexually harassed and assaulted in our community.
What I learned from this experience is
Being accused of an ulterior motive when you do not have one is triggering
When the accusation of not be honest is presented, I am triggered.
I am triggered when survivors are not believed, this come from my own trauma and not being believed.
Harassment and assault regardless of whether it is sexual or not, is not okay.
We need to believe survivors. We need to stand up and support organizations fighting to support survivors or speaking on their behalf because the survivors are not always strong enough to stand alone. We need to believe survivors because not believing survivors does harm.
We are harming and triggering victims causing them to relive their trauma when we do not believe them.
I wasn’t believed. I do not want that for anyone else.
“If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.” – Zora Neale Hurston