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Spring

Waiting for spring to arrive…

The temperature today is -2.

I cannot wait for spring to be sprung.

This woman is tired of winter

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Africa Centre executive director sacked amid allegations of sexual harassment

CBC reports – Reporter Andrea Huncar

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/edmonton/edmonton-africa-centre-director-fired-sexual-harassment-1.4583635

This is a good day for people of the African Diaspora in #YEG. This shows harassment will not be tolerated in our community any longer.

Most importantly – Thank you for the women who spoke out!

The African community in Edmonton is better thanks to your voices!

About Me, Health, Reflections, Self Care

Spoons

Spoons are used metaphorically a lot in my life.

Tonight I have no more and do not wish to lick any…

Sometimes I do not have the spoons to deal with others and the emotional labour required to keep them afloat.

Yet I feel guilt because of it, even when it’s not my fault.

Emotional labour is a difficult and when you hit your breaking point sometimes the emotional labour is just not worth it. Is it worth it to expend your energy propping up another person with no benefit? Will it pay off in the long run? How long do you participate and support someone with emotional labour before pulling the cord? Do you wait until you realize… you were actually licking the spoon?

So many questions fill my head this evening because I am done. I am enough. I am me. I do not need to do the emotional labour in personal relationships to be worthy of them.

Social justice can take alot of emotional labour. To weather the storm you are going to need an inner circle in which there is an exchange of emotional labour and not just a drain.

Remember to take care of yourself and DO NOT do emotional labour for others who do not deserve it.

  • Read a book
  • Get a massage
  • Paint your nails
  • Take a bath
  • Go for a walk
  • Meditate

You are important! You are valuable! You are special! Just you is worthy, without any added extras!

Always remember, “‘No’ is a complete sentence.” ―  Anne Lamott

 

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An explanation from Forbes

First a big Thank You to Chris Ladd from Political Orphans for printing this and exposing the original post by Forbes.

Please visit the explanation article – An explanation from Forbes on Political Orphans

Also, let’s point out that Forbes does post on social issues

https://www.forbes.com/sites/georgeleef/2017/07/23/the-government-shouldnt-force-pro-life-doctors-to-promote-abortion-and-a-federal-judge-agrees/2/#7869f36f7487 

Now if you think that Forbes’ explanation for why they took this story down is correct, you may want to check your privilege.

Black people in the southern states have suffered because of church’s with racist ideologies pushing their goals under the guise of God since the beginning of slavery in the new world. This is truth. You can see the hatred spewed from pulpits if you listen carefully because they have gotten smarter over the years and package nicely with a big red bow.

There is a reason people fought so hard to hold on to these ideologies and that is because white supremacy was folded into society and it was even presented as needed to obtain their salvation. Those against it were pushed out cast out of white society and fled for their lives.

This is the truth.

To see my original post with the original Forbes article please Click Here

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The article removed from Forbes, “Why White Evangelicalism Is So Cruel”

I am interested to follow this story and to find out why Forbes decided to pull this article that speaks so much truth into the perseverance of racism in the south.

Here is a quote from the article that stood out to me

“Guarding women’s sexual purity meant guarding the purity of the white race. There was no higher moral demand.”

Please go here to see the article on Political Orphans

 

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Triggers

Triggers

I never knew how an incident could trigger me so strongly or I never acknowledged it.

This past Saturday I participated in a #metoo rally in #yeg , as a member of Black Women United Yeg. Black women attended to support those who were currently hurting due to long standing issues within our community.

After the rally The March On Collective Edmonton accused us of trying to change the focus of the rally of; when we were trying to represent black women who have been sexually harassed and assaulted in our community.

What I learned from this experience is

Being accused of an ulterior motive when you do not have one is triggering

When the accusation of not be honest is presented, I am triggered.

I am triggered when survivors are not believed, this come from my own trauma and not being believed.

Harassment and assault regardless of whether it is sexual or not, is not okay.

We need to believe survivors. We need to stand up and support organizations fighting to support survivors or speaking on their behalf because the survivors are not always  strong enough to stand alone. We need to believe survivors because not believing survivors does harm.

We are harming and triggering victims causing them to relive their trauma when we do not believe them.

I wasn’t believed. I do not want that for anyone else.

#Ibelieveyou

“If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.” – Zora Neale Hurston

About Me

My Passion!

A passion near and dear to my heart. Please support me!

I am part of the core team of Black Woman United YEG a grassroots group in Edmonton dedicated to the education and advancement of black women and girls.

We are starting out and trying our best to advocate in a meaningful and productive way to improve the lives of black women in our city.

But we need education too. We need to be able to learn to guide and achieve success. So we have launched a campaign to raise funds.

Please support me in my advocacy education by donating here!

Here’s what we’re doing about it

We have lined up a series of 4 workshops to equip us in Strategies for Organizing, Media Relations, Online Organizing, and Content Creation.

The workshops are for our Core Team and women from the community who are eager to learn. They will run from March to June 2018. 15 people can attend each one.

We need to cover facilitator fees, room rental, snacks and resource materials.

To make our trainings accessible, we will offer bus tickets and childcare.

Black Women have long been inventing creative ways to resist and build resilience within systems of oppression.

Imagine the impact of a cadre of Sisters who are equipped with the know-how to frame an issue, galvanize support, and organize a multi-pronged approach.

Racism and patriarchy better run!

Learn more by clicking here