Spoons are used metaphorically a lot in my life.
Tonight I have no more and do not wish to lick any…
Sometimes I do not have the spoons to deal with others and the emotional labour required to keep them afloat.
Yet I feel guilt because of it, even when it’s not my fault.
Emotional labour is a difficult and when you hit your breaking point sometimes the emotional labour is just not worth it. Is it worth it to expend your energy propping up another person with no benefit? Will it pay off in the long run? How long do you participate and support someone with emotional labour before pulling the cord? Do you wait until you realize… you were actually licking the spoon?
So many questions fill my head this evening because I am done. I am enough. I am me. I do not need to do the emotional labour in personal relationships to be worthy of them.
Social justice can take alot of emotional labour. To weather the storm you are going to need an inner circle in which there is an exchange of emotional labour and not just a drain.
Remember to take care of yourself and DO NOT do emotional labour for others who do not deserve it.
- Read a book
- Get a massage
- Paint your nails
- Take a bath
- Go for a walk
You are important! You are valuable! You are special! Just you is worthy, without any added extras!
Always remember, “‘No’ is a complete sentence.” ― Anne Lamott